We all have one. The person who seems to have everything, wants nothing and responds to every question about Christmas presents with the familiar words: "Don't be buying me anything."
It might be a parent, a partner, an adult child or a friend. They are the people who turn Christmas shopping into an annual exercise in frustration, leaving us wandering around shops wondering what on earth we could possibly buy them.
The temptation is to resort to something predictable. Another pair of socks, another box of chocolates or another gift set that might eventually find its way to the back of a cupboard.
But perhaps the solution is to stop thinking about what people need and start thinking about what they enjoy.
For the person who loves cooking, an unusual ingredient, a specialist cookbook or a cooking experience could provide something different. For someone who enjoys gardening, a beautiful plant, a distinctive pot or a subscription to a gardening publication might be more appreciated than another generic gift.
For those who enjoy reading, consider a book outside their usual genre. A biography, a beautifully illustrated history book or a collection of essays might introduce them to something they would not normally choose.
Experiences can also be a wonderful answer. Theatre tickets, a concert, a guided tour, a restaurant voucher or a day trip can provide something to anticipate and remember. Sometimes the opportunity to spend time together is the most valuable gift of all.
Technology can offer possibilities too, particularly for older relatives who might appreciate something that makes everyday life easier. A digital photo frame filled with family photographs, for example, can be a lovely way to stay connected with children and grandchildren.
For someone who genuinely insists they want nothing, consider a charitable donation in their name to a cause they care about. It is a thoughtful alternative that can make a difference to someone else.
There is also a useful distinction between buying someone something they already own and finding a better version of something they particularly enjoy. A favourite coffee, a special tea, quality stationery or a luxurious version of an everyday product can all make appealing presents.
The important thing is to avoid buying simply for the sake of having something to put under the tree.
Perhaps the best way to approach the impossible person this Christmas is to think back over the conversations you have had throughout the year.
What have they enjoyed? What have they talked about? What would make them smile?
The answer might be closer than you think.
