Some parents and coaches need to cop themselves on

Some parents and coaches need to cop themselves on. Answer this honestly; and no hiding here please.

Just look in the mirror, reflect calmly, and ask yourself this simple question: "Am I one of those parents who scream and shout their heads off and become totally irrational, subjective, and embarrassing at underage games that my children are involved in?"

Or alternatively, "Am I an underage coach who thinks he or she is Martin O' Neill or Roy Keane in the European Championships against Sweden, or Davey Fitzgerald in a Munster hurling final, ranting and raging against the referee and opposition like a crazy fishwife?"

If the answer is "yes" to either of the above, then you need to cop on and stop trying to live out your sporting fantasies, or perhaps trying to rectify your own failures, through your own youngsters or the children you coach.

The reason this kind of undesirable and at times deplorable behaviour is so fresh in my mind is that only this week our local U-12 camogie team played a well-known and very strong hurling club in a county quarter final.

Now keep in your mind's eye the fact that this was U-12 camogie and a long way from the top division in the county too. And some of the girls out on the pitch were just nine years of age and only in third or fourth class.

Every club has their own fair share of members who could have been extras in One Flew over the Cuckoo's Nest - however, to hear some of the shouting and ranting from some of the parents at the game and a few hangers-on was tough going.

Big, middle-aged men shouting at young children is unseemly. The fact that a few of these fine big middle-aged men on the opposition sideline felt the need to encroach onto the pitch by 15 or 20 yards, and I am being honest here, in an U-12 game really got my goat and made me want to race across and ask them why they are not playing with their Junior Bs or Cs if they wanted to be on the pitch so much.

Of course, sinking to that level of behaviour only leads to serious confrontation and that is hardly the example anyone should be setting for youngsters.

The GAA had a policy there for a while of watching underage games in silence and just letting the youngsters enjoy running around and doing their best.

Winning or losing at that age is neither here nor there. Surely, enjoyment for the children and skill development have to be the key objectives and the overriding plan of all underage coaching and games. Personally, I genuinely hated my coaches shouting out at me when I was playing underage sport and even adult football, hurling, or soccer.

To all those parents and coaches who will be involved in underage games and coaching this weekend - just ask the children who you are involved with, if they enjoy being shouted at and cajoled on an ongoing basis? And if they do not - why don't you change your behaviour?

You are the problem. Not the children. My own eldest daughter had this conversation with me in the car a few years ago going to a game. "Dad, will you do me a favour today at the game?" she asked. "Sure", I replied. "Can you not shout out at me. Just don't shout at all, good or bad, and let me enjoy the game and do my best."

That, my friends, was the last time I have shouted directly out to any of my children during a match or training. I try to keep all my contributions now at underage level to a simple "Come on Moycullen" or Corofin or Galway.

Think about it. If they don't want to hear your voice, or hear your robust encouragement, or ranting at the referee, why are you doing it?

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