Why people fail to change their lives

What separates the people who are winning from those who fail to achieve their goals?

It has nothing to do with luck or fate. It is the resistance one holds to one's goal. People are not aware of the resistance because it is hidden in the subconscious mind. You can want something but also want the complete opposite.

For instance, you may want to lose weight, but you also want what food does in meeting more pressing emotional needs, you may see food as your only or best means of escaping from negative feelings or find you do not have any other immediate way of rewarding yourself.

Resistance is what is pulling you in the opposite direction from where you want to go. People believe that by putting more energy and motivation into the goal of winning they will overpower the part that is in resistance. The problem is that by pulling against what you resist you are adding energy to it, what you resist persists.

This explains why after being successful in losing weight on a weight loss programme you finally cave in and you are back to your old relationship with food.

We do what causes the least emotional pain. Emotional balance is the same as the law of gravity, it always works the same. For instance, you use force to kick a football up the side of a hill but it finally loses momentum and rolls back down again.

You use the force of willpower when you "go on a diet" but you find that you lose momentum and get back to square one again. People start "new diet" programmes believing that this time they will succeed but find that they fail one more time — they simply cannot work if your subconscious paradigm stays the same.

There is a reason that an aspect of you is pulling against what you want, it actually believes that is in your best interests. You must remember that your subconscious is never doing anything against you, it is doing things for you.

The beliefs that create your emotions are largely subconscious, this is why subconscious transformation is essential in creating change. You can now understand why hypnotherapy is such an effective strategy in creating lasting change.

One of the the goals of the subconscious mind is to protect us emotionally, it wants us moving towards feeling better. The problem is that in the process of striving for a goal we are causing more powerful negative feelings. It is only when you address the positive intentions behind the resistance to your goal that you have a chance of success.

For help with mind-related problems call Michael McGuinness, clinical hypnotherapist, at Mayo Hypnosis Clinic on (094 ) 9060226 or (086 ) 1612301, or log onto www.mayohypnosis.ie

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